Live!

“I have forgiven mistakes that were indeed almost unforgivable. I’ve tried to replace people who were irreplaceable and tried to forget those who were unforgettable. I’ve acted on impulse, have been disappointed by people when I thought that this could never be possible. But I have also disappointed those who I love. I have laughed at inappropriate occasions. I’ve made friends that are now friends for life. I’ve screamed and jumped for joy. I’ve loved and I’ve been loved. But I have also been rejected and I have been loved without loving the person back. I’ve lived for love alone and made vows of eternal love. I’ve had my heart broken many, many times! I’ve cried while listening to music and looking at old pictures. I’ve called someone just to hear their voice on the other side. I have fallen in love with a smile. At times, I thought I would die because I missed someone so much. At other times, I felt very afraid that I might loose someone very special (which ended up happening anyway.) But I have lived! And I still continue living everyday. I’m not just passing through life… and you shouldn’t either. Live! The best thing in life is to go ahead with all your plans and your dreams, to embrace life and to live everyday with passion, to lose and still keep the faith and to win while been grateful. All of this because the world belongs to those who dare to go after what they want. And because life is really too short to be insignificant.”

– Charlie Chaplin

Letting Go

I don’t know why we all hang on to something we know were better letting go. It’s like were scared to lose what we don’t even really have. Some of us say we’d rather have that something than absolutely nothing, but the truth is, to have it halfway is harder than not having it at all.

You know what your problem is? You get attached, fast. And once you’re attached to someone, you do everything you can to please them and make them happy. It’s never been about what you want; it’s always everyone’s needs before your own. You give out too many chances to people, who quite frankly, do not deserve them. They take advantage of you, and you become a pushover. But you’re okay with that, because they’re in your life and that’s all you ever really wanted. And even if they screw you over, you’ll still be there for her. Because that’s you, that’s who you are. Once you get attached to someone, they capture your heart and they always have a place there. And that is why it’s so hard for you to let go.

I get the whole “She’s the only girl I’ve ever really been in love with” part. It’s hard to let go, hard to move on to someone else and think you’ll never find anyone with such characteristics or chemistry like you two had, but I promise you, once you let go and move on, you’ll find out that, deep down, the only feelings you have for her might be just the fact that you’ll always love her. You may not want her back, you might just be scared to move on without her.

Nobody wants to hear this but sometimes the person you want the most, is the person you are best without.

To Be Loved

Why is there this everlasting craving to be loved? Listen carefully. You want to be loved because you do not love; but the moment you love, it is finished, you are no longer inquiring whether or not somebody loves you. As long as you demand to be loved, there is no love in you; and if you feel no love, you are ugly, brutish, so why should you be loved? Without love you are a dead thing; and when the dead thing asks for love, it is still dead. Whereas, if your heart is full of love, then you never ask to be loved, you never put out your begging bowl for someone to fill it. It is only the empty who ask to be filled, and an empty heart can never be filled by running after gurus or seeking love in a hundred other ways.

“I never loved another person the way I loved myself.” – Mae West

A Tiny Drop of Water

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A tiny drop of water washed away the land and buildings fell, floating away with other people’s dreams.

Roadways planned and formed by huge machines and men who sweat and hammer the world into shape, were pushed away with little effort.

People ran and cars clogged highways in an effort to stay ahead of the possible destruction that tiny drop of water could cause.

“Wait!” you say. “It was much more than a tiny drop of water. The streams overflowed and the rivers broke through their banks causing a wall of water to destroy those things.”

Yes, but it was made up of tiny drops of water. Raindrops which together wore a path right through my yard with little effort. One drop, then two then thousands, millions and all together they changed the world, our world.

Can’t you see the significance in that?

I want to change the world. I am tired, worn out from weeping at the sight of still another death not just on the field of battle laid out by warriors, but in the streets of every city, in the fields of the impoverished, desolate reaches of the world. They are dying in my country and yours by bullet, by starvation, disease, arrogance, stupidity and pride.

A tiny drop of water gave me hope.

I am but one drop in the sea of humanity, but like the rain I can join together with others and wash away the hatred and pain I anguish over. One drop, then two, then thousands, millions and all together we can change the world. our world.

I want to change my life. I am tired of being in debt. I am worn out from trying to keep pace with the world. I have tried my very best to get ahead and find myself falling behind each step of the way.

A tiny drop of water gave me hope.

It fell upon the hillside just behind my house. One single drop of water joined with others forming a stream.

Like trying one more time. Like doing one more thing. Like pushing one more inch to reach the goal, the dream I long to touch and make reality. All my little efforts make big changes.

The little stream that ran down my driveway, never having been there before, began as one single drop, until one drop after another, trying again and again, washed the soil away and moved the tiny pebble and eventually the rock.

I cannot push away the fear nor change my life overnight, but if I dedicate myself to one single effort each and every day, I will see the power of changing little things to make a big difference.

A tiny drop of water gave me hope.

I am just one drop in the sea of humanity. But I have the power to change my life and the sacred obligation to move the world in the right direction.

How?

One drop, then two, then thousands, millions and all together we change the world, our world.

A tiny drop of water gave me hope.

Keep Holding On

You walk outside and all you see is rain
You look inside and all you feel is pain
And you can’t see it now

You wake up every morning and ask yourself
What am I doing here anyway
With the weight of all those disappointments
Whispering in your ear
You’re just barely hanging by a thread
You wanna scream but you’re down to your last breath
And you don’t know it yet

But down the road the sun is shining
In every cloud there’s a silver lining
Just keep holding on (just keep holding on)
And every heartache makes you stronger
But it won’t be much longer
You’ll find love, you’ll find peace
And the you you’re meant to be
I know right now that’s not the way you feel
But one day you will – Lady Antebellum “One Day You Will”

“Life isn’t meant to be easy, it’s meant to be lived. Sometimes happy, other times rough. But with every up and down you learn lessons that make you strong.”

May There Be Too Many Candles For Your Cake

There are some lessons only wisdom and experience can teach us.

I have worked with the aged for many years. In doing so I have gained wisdom beyond my age. For it is only those who traveled down the road before me who can report back what lies ahead.

I take time to listen and by doing so I gain a new perspective of growing old.

Yesterday something triggered a memory that, at the time, felt so powerful that I consciously filed it away as one of those gems I knew I’d not soon forget.

They were having a birthday cake for one of the residents in a nursing home I often visited.

While lighting the many candles one man jokingly called it a “fire hazard.”

There were so many candles that by the time they sang for her, some had already melted down. Still, there weren’t enough. She was 85.

After all the happy singing and memories shared, I sat next to the birthday girl.

“I hope my cake becomes a fire hazard,” I said. She smiled politely.

We sat quietly for a few minutes just taking in the moment. I believe that many of those in attendance were flipping through the pages of their own life. Memories of good times and not so good tip toed through their minds filtered somewhat by the natural aging process. I think in some way we unknowingly apply selective memory tactics and later on in life see things the way we want to rather that the way it was at the time.

Suddenly a young volunteer came to give the birthday girl a hug.

“So, what great advice can you give me for a life well spent?” she asked.

The woman paused for a moment and said, “All of us have a light that we share with the world. It is real. It is who God created us to be.”

She stopped for a moment as she gathered her thoughts. When speaking with older folks it is always important to be patient. One must never hurry them. They didn’t rush to get here, so wait and listen intently to what they have to offer.

She continued. “Some people see our light as dimming. It has only grown brighter. The candles on the cake are evidence of that.”

The young girl was about to leave when I motioned that she should wait. I sensed that the best was yet to be spoken.

“We blow out the candles but our light remains brilliant. God is the source of our light. It never dims. How can we?”

There it was. The young girl looked at me and whispered, “Thank you!” She was glad she stayed.

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, psychiatrist, a pioneer in Near-death studies said:
“People are like stained glass windows, the true beauty can be
seen only when there is light from within. The darker the night,
the brighter the windows.”

England Dan and John Ford Coley sang:
“Light of the world, shine on me
Love is the answer
Shine on us all
Set us free
Love is the answer”

May there be too many candles for your cake!

Learning to be happier

Advice for ‘Making Changes to Your Life’, we all want to be more forgiving people. We want to give selflessly and help others to find satisfaction in our deeds. As humans, we have a divine inner light that shines from within that wants to encompass others and show them how wonderful we think that they are. We want to entertain and support our loved ones, and give them provisions in more than a monetary sense. We want our children to feel that they can be whatever they want to be and that they need not be ashamed of who they are or what they decide that they want to do. We want our most beautiful creations to find happiness in their every day life and to never know sorrow or failure. If we could make the world a better or safer place for them, we would, and no matter what their endeavors, we will always find them to be just as wonderful as the day that they were brought into this world. We have no qualms in finding ways to put others before ourselves for happiness and peace, in fact, we welcome this opportunity to make someone we love more comfortable. Does it seem at all odd that though we actively seek these things for others on a daily basis that we rarely make time to change our own perspectives ourselves? With effort you could change your life and find yourself living life on purpose. You could be happier, and live your life on your terms. You can be free of the judgment of others and you can watch your challenges become gifts. With forgiveness in your heart and a legacy of understanding, the myths of your oppression will show themselves as being a fabrication of your mind. You can live your own prophesy of passion. You can gain perspective and exhibit your resilience. The growth of your passion will make itself known daily as you let go of past traumas and be happier every day. We need to look into our hearts and find this new dimension that we may create a better world for ourselves. There is little that is actually holding you back from being that person living a happy life every day, and most of the resistance is based in your own mind. This is not your fault, it is a behavior that you have learned as you grew, just like everyone else, but your new goal must be to take the walls down in your mind. You must remove the blinders and learn to live your life with purpose. It is entirely up to you to make this change. Nobody can improve your attitude but you, and nobody will try either. No matter what you want in your life, you have had to work for it, and your peace of mind is no different. If you would like to free yourself of your trauma and find yourself reveling in your daily gifts, then the day to start is today, and the person that you need to start with is you.

– Sharyn Abbott