Happiness

In general, I can say that everyone wants to be happy.  But it is also a known fact that many people are miserable all over the world.  We are all in pursuit of happiness as we strive to achieve our dreams.  In this journey we take to find happiness, not all of us succeed in achieving our goals.  There are those who give up when things get too tough.  There are those who give up without even trying.  And there are those lucky few who get to achieve their goals but still somehow realize that what they have been striving for did not bring lasting happiness.

What is Happiness?

Does this sound like a losing battle to you?  Well, actually, achieving “happiness” is just a matter of perception. Your notion of happiness may be far from what it really is.  And sometimes what you’ve wanted for so long is not really what you needed.  Just as the song goes “Be careful what you wish for cause you just might get it…”  Before you go chasing rainbows, try answering the question: “What is happiness?”  What is it that would make you really happy?  There are some factors that can make a person happy.  Peace of mind, contentment, purpose, companionship, spirituality, and love.

Peace of Mind

Everybody has a conscience.  This is our guide in making our life decisions, big or small.  A clean conscience gives you peace of mind.  This is living a life without fear because you know that you have done nothing wrong.  To have peace of mind, be sure to always be fair and try your best to always do what is right and just for everybody. I know it is easy to say, “be fair.” But to actually live by that rule is very difficult considering the pressures of society and, of course, the temptations that come our way.  Just remember that whatever great things you may get through cheating and stealing, it will never be as precious as a being able to sleep soundly at night.

Contentment

All of us wish we had something that we didn’t have.  And when we get that, we want something else or something more.  The truth is, we should be content with what we have right now.  We cannot change the things we didn’t have before. And we will never know what we will have tomorrow.  So if you ate well today, you have a home, a family, and everything that you need today, be thankful.  Someone else somewhere else in the world would kill to have the things you have right now.  Appreciating the graces you receive each day and being content knowing that your needs have been filled simplifies life’s little joys.  The things that you want will never bring complete happiness.  But to be content everyday brings happiness that lasts day after day.

Purpose

Many have read or have heard of the book A Purpose Driven Life.  And by the success of the book, you will see that so many people are in search of a purpose or meaning to life.  Do not do things just for the money.  Of course we need to work to make a living.  But always ask yourself “Why?”  Why are you doing what you are doing?  If you have a job that you hate, try to remember why you still stay.  It may be because you have a family that you love, and they are depending on you.  Whatever sacrifices are made gain purpose because they are done out of love.  Everything has a purpose.  Find the deeper meaning, and you will be able to see which of your activities are still worth doing or not.  Which of your activities have actual purpose? Which of them bring you happiness?

Companionship

No man is an island.  People need to reach out to other people.  You don’t need a life partner to be happy.  Some people choose to live a single life.  But to be single does not mean you have to be alone.  Never live your life just for yourself.  You have to coexist, interact, and be part of a community.  Share your life with others and see how other people can make a difference in your outlook in life.

Spirituality

Faith in God and a connection to your inner being brings inner peace.  This inner peace radiates to others and gives a person a positive outlook in life.  This positivity brings forth good things that will bring more smiles into your life.

Love

The ultimate rule to happiness is love.  Do everything out of love, and you will feel a silent joy in your heart.  Do one act of kindness at a time, and you will feel the love in your heart fill your life with happiness.

That Feeling

You know that feeling when you’re just waiting, waiting to get home into your room, close the door, fall into bed, and just let everything out that you kept in all day, that feeling of both relief and desperation? Nothing is wrong, but nothing is right either, and you’re tired, tired of everything, tired of nothing, and you just want someone to be there and tell you it’s okay, but no one’s going to be there, and you know you have to be strong for yourself because no one can fix you. But you’re tired of waiting, tired of having to be the one to fix yourself and everyone else, tired of being strong, and for once, you just want it to be easy, to be simple, to be helped, to be saved, but you know you won’t be, but you’re still hoping and you’re still wishing and you’re still staying strong and fighting with tears in your eyes. You’re fighting.

Dear Lonely Fellows…

Everyone, at some point in their lives, wakes up in the middle of the night with the feeling that they are all alone in the world, and that nobody loves them now and that nobody will ever love them.

“Do you ever just get that feeling where you don’t want to talk to anybody? you don’t want to smile, and you don’t want to fake being happy. But at the same time, you don’t know exactly what is wrong either. There isn’t a way to explain it to someone who doesn’t already understand. If you could want anything in the world it would be to be alone. People have stopped being comforting.. and being alone never was. At least when you’re alone no one constantly asks you what is wrong and there isn’t anyone who wont take ‘I don’t know’ for an answer. You feel the way you do just BECAUSE. You hope the feeling will pass soon and that you will be able to be yourself again, but until then all you can do is wait.” – Lora M. Heacock

It hurts to smile… I feel like I’m going to burst into tears. There’s just some days like this when it all seems to be wrong and nothing feels right.

Dear whoever is reading this,

I understand how rough things are right now. I just want to let you know that things will get better, I promise. Keep holding on just a little bit longer. I know you feel like nobody really cares. You’re wrong, stop denying it. I care, otherwise I wouldn’t be writing this. You’re not alone, we may be miles away but we’re all going through the same things. Please keep holding on.

Whoever you are, I love you. 🙂

Not Alone!

I cannot ease your aching heart,

nor take your pain away;

but let me stay and take your hand,

and walk with you today.

I’ll listen when you need to talk,
I’ll wipe away your tears;
I’ll share your worries when they come,
and I’ll help you face your fears.

Don’t you ever, ever think that you are alone in this world. When you’re feeling down, 
lonely, as if you walk this road alone, stop. Stop and look around you. 
There is always someone. There will always be someone. And if you see no-one, look deeper. 
Maybe that someone you need lies inside of you. You will never, ever in this world be alone. 
Just remember that.

Being Lonely!

“I have all these feelings – these weird feelings, and I’ve had this burning desire to express them. But I can’t. I just can’t. And these feelings – they’re trapped and they’re like stuck in my heart.. And I just feel so lonely.”

Do you know why people hate to admit they are lonely? It’s because when you do, everyone thinks that something is wrong with you. They think “I have people in my life, why don’t you?” But the strange thing is, you can have people in your life and still be alone.

Because sometimes people do actually feel that way. Sometimes your life feels like it’s caving in on you. Sometimes people really do feel like they don’t want to exist, like they want to just curl up in a ball, and go into that place between life and death. Saying “I don’t want to exist” isn’t saying “I want to go die”. It’s saying “I wish that, for the time being, I could go somewhere and not have to feel”. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. And if you don’t know how it feels to feel this way, then you have no place to judge anyone who does.

I’m telling you, there’s nothing wrong with being lonely sometimes, it’s okay…you’ll be alright.

Loneliness

In A Persistent Bewilderness

Of A Devastated Hope

Of A Shattered Dream

Of An Unseen World

Of A Longing Eye

Is Silently Dying

In A Sands Of Time

In A Persistent Bewilderness

Of A Unholy Touch

Of A Cycle Of Disbelief

Of An Unseen Reality

Of A Sinking Heart

Is Losing Its Grip

In A Vortex Of Life

Where Darkness Prevails

Leaving Only Emptiness

Deep Inside Nothingness.